Expectations

Ya Ya!!  The Holiday’s are coming…..Why is it this time of year we experience stress?  I don’t think it’s the spending,unless that is your problem.  butterflyPeople set budgets, and don’t go over those…..Why I think people experience stress the most is EXPECTATIONS.  If something was pleasurable in the past, it only makes sense that you would want to repeat that pleasurable experience.  In fact, of people who have studied centenarians have found the most healthy trait they have is to accept change and move on.  Their mind is flexible.  Remember, flexible body means a flexible mind?

So, for me, Thanksgiving is a big deal.  I love to cook.  I love my family.  It’s one of my favorite holiday’s.  I also like to hike and be outdoors.  About 15 years ago, we started a new tradition, where we would go out and play football.  The losers would have to wash all the dishes.  It was all good fun, and most of the time, we would all chip in to clean up.  Everyone would pick out their favorite dish and make it, so the stress was off me to do it all.  Last year, everything changed.  Both of my boys are in Nashville, and every Thanksgiving weekend, they participate in a show, so they couldn’t come up. If we went down, they would be busy working.   My daughter lives close by, but decided to spend the holiday with her boyfriends’s family, and friends.  Thus, last year, was just myself and my husband.  At first, I was upset, especially before the holiday.  I decided to make the best of it, and truly we did.  My husband and I cooked a simple meal, enjoyed it together, and even went out and tried to play football.  It’s hard to play football with 2 people!!  This year, looks to be the same.  As I talked everything over with my family, I realize that I’m grasping for the holiday in the past.  My mind is inflexible.  Maybe this year, is the time for a change.  I don’t know what I’ll be doing, but I’m going to have a good time.  Maybe sky diving??  That might take some drugs to do on my husband’s part!!

I am reminded of this daily.  Everyday we have a choice.  Do we embrace the unknown, and forge a new path, or do we cling to our past?  The choice is ours to make.  Sometimes our exit (death)  will not be graceful (from disease).  We will kick and scream, even in death, unwilling to change, or move on.  This is a huge lesson for me.  Or instead, do we hold our head up high, take the unknown path, and change?  As I look back on my life, I  realized when I have made the choice to take the less traveled path, good things have come out of that.  For goodness sake, I didn’t even think I wanted to teach yoga, until circumstances directed me to.  What a gift that is!!

See you on the mat,

Paula

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